Is the way you are communicating affecting your role as a grandparent? Part 1
In her very informative post, 10 Tips for Effective Communication, Liz Kingsnorth shares some great ways which we can use to improve our relationships by communicating with each other more clearly.
Improving your communication skills will help you better understood. It will allow you to get your message across without misunderstandings.
You can use these methods with your grandchildren, children, partners and spouses, and work colleagues. You may even use them at your local sporting club or the volunteer organization you belong to.
Here are the first of Liz Kingsnorth’s 10 tips for effective communication:
1. Intend to communicate with the best of intentions.
All too often we go into a conversation wanting to get our point across. If we can do this respectfully and with compassion we will be heard and what we have to say more readily accepted.
2. Listen more than your speak
We all know this one! A conversation is a two-way process, and while what you have to say is important, listening carefully to how the other person responds to you is as equally important.
3. Understand the other person first.
Be willing to open your heart to the other person, and how she or he may be feeling. You will need to employ your compassion, generosity, self-control and respect. Enter into a conversation curious, not furious, and you’ll get a lot further.
4. Understand the needs, wishes and values of the other person.
Listen carefully the next time you are having a conversation, and see if you can hear the needs of the other person. This will be your opportunity to show empathy, and not blame or misjudge the other person.
5. Remain empathetic throughout the conversation.
The art of practicing empathy means that you don’t immediately tell your story, you don’t interrogate with a lot of questions, you never judge or give advice; you don’t try to ‘one up’ the person by telling a similar experience you’ve had and; you don’t dismiss their feelings by telling them they’ll get over it.