Is the way you are communicating affecting your role as a grandparent? Part 2
In her very informative post, 10 Tips for Effective Communication, Liz Kingsnorth shares some great ways which we can use to improve our relationships by communicating with each other more clearly.
Improving your communication skills will help you better understood. It will allow you to get your message across without misunderstandings.
You can use these methods with your grandchildren, children, partners and spouses, and work colleagues. You may even use them at your local sporting club or the volunteer organization you belong to.
Here are the last of Liz Kingsnorth’s 10 tips for effective communication:
6. Be aware of your feelings and take responsibility for them.
If you feel yourself getting annoyed or bored, change and refocus your mind. Tell the person if they have upset you in a calm and loving manner.
7. Make practical requests of the other person.
Don’t always be complaining, instead tell the other person if you have an issue with their behavior. Be positive and make sure your requests are clear and helpful.
8. Keep your language neutral.
If you are upset don’t use words or phrases which might trigger a negative response. Don’t blame or accuse the other person, or make judgements about what they have done or believe. Be positive and specific, and choose your words carefully.
9. Accept ‘No’ when you hear it.
Not everything we ask for will come true, and not everyone can help us. Get used to someone saying ‘no’ and politely thank them.
10. Learn to communicate by using more than words.
You may be aware that over 80% of what you say is interpreted in your body language. Be conscious of how you are sitting, and what your hands are doing. What expression do you have on your face? If your words are not reflected by your body language your attempts to communicate clearly will be lost.
Being understood is harder than many people think. Older people in particular expect to be listened to because they are more experienced, and are due some respect. However, you also need to earn that those attributes and model them in your own behavior.