It is certainly natural to become frustrated and angry when things don’t go your way.

We all do it, right?

You might get cut off in traffic, or drop a bottle of milk in Aisle 4 at your local supermarket.

And, then you find something else goes wrong, and before you know it you’re in a bad temper, and your day is dark and gloomy.

These things are natural, but how you react to them is extremely important.

We all lose our temper, but not many of us actually throw things or hit people.

Being a role model for your grandchildren

Children do lose their temper and can become really frustrated. They have less power in the world than we do, and this can lead to feelings of vulnerability and anxiety.

It is important as grandparents that we become a guide or mentor for our grandchildren, and set the example we want them to follow.

Easier said than done?

Not really.

How can you help your grandchild regulate their temper and be calmer?
Help your grandchild regulate their temper

Here’s what to do if you feel yourself getting angry in front of your grandchild:

  • Take a deep breath
  • Force yourself to smile
  • Say fudge a lot
  • Look for the funny side of the situation – quickly, then laugh at it and yourself.
  • Explain how others might be feeling who were also involved (like the kid who has to mop up the milk).

Here’s what to do when your grandchild loses his or her temper:

  • Take a deep breath
  • Force yourself to smile
  • Ask them to do the same
  • Ask them ‘what’ questions not ‘why’ ones. This helps them connect emotionally with what they are feeling and get their frustrations out. For example, “What happened just now?” “How does that make you feel?”
  • Ask them what they would have liked to happen instead and if that is reasonable?
  • Could the situation be avoided?
How can you help your grandchild regulate their temper and be calmer?
Be a role model and a guide.

Try not to laugh either! When my grandson at 4 years plopped himself in the car and declared that he was very cross with his mother because she had driven past McDonalds, and not bought him anything it was difficult to keep a straight face. But, we did and he was told calmly and quietly his dinner was waiting at home for him.

Be the role model and the guide and help your grandchildren become well-rounded individuals.

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How can you help your grandchild regulate their temper and be calmer?
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