The title of this article may seem quite odd – How can we develop feelings of warmth and trust with our grandchildren?
But, think about it.
We live in busy times and many grandparents don’t see their grandchildren as often as they would like.
Children aren’t raised like we were.
They are often overprotected and cautioned. They are not allowed to go down the street or explore the woods like we did.
This can result in children not having the trust in those that care for them.
What does trust mean?
“If you fall I will catch you!” is a wonderful statement of trust.
What are the benefits for a child who has relationships based on trust?
Science has shown us that they have fewer behavior problems.
They also have higher rates of “secure attachment”. This means that they are not worried about the connection they have with the adults in their lives – they, in fact, trust the adults to care for them and do the right thing.
The children also have a greater ability to process stress which was tested by their levels of cortisol, a key stress hormone.
How can we develop feelings of trust in our families?
These statements while not new are sure to increase the levels of trust in the lives of your family –
- Do what you say you are going to do
- Be where you say you are going to be
- Don’t use sarcasm towards a child
- Don’t make fun or tease a child
- Always be there and listen
- Don’t take sides
- Support the parents
- If you do get angry, target the behavior which is wrong, not the child.
- Always forgive, move on and celebrate the small achievements.