Everything you say is communicate by how you say it.
When you are communicating with your grandchildren it is important to remember that they will pick up on every subtle message you send them.
Children seem to know when you are being sarcastic or you are too tired to be with them, for example.
Each moment you spend with our grandchildren is precious.
Make sure you are being fully mindful and present with them each time.
When communicating with your grandchildren make sure you sit facing them. Unless you are watching television or reading a book, for example.
By facing them and looking into their eyes you will be telling them that what they are saying is important, and that they have your full attention.
Don’t cross your arms or legs – these are signals which tell someone you are not comfortable.
Make sure your hands are free and not busying themselves with gadgets or distracting objects.
Keep your facial expressions genuine, and show interest.
If you have to over think this one, you may find you need to put other thoughts out of your head and concentrate solely on what your grandchild is saying to you.
Energy and Attitude
Your energy and attitude is crucial to being fully present when communicating with your grandchildren.
If your mind is wandering, wondering what you are going to cook for dinner or what television program you are missing.
Ensure the one of your voice is genuine too. Your words and behavior should be an exact match. How else are you going to develop a deep and sincere relationship with them?
Creating a True Connection
To create a true connection with your grandchildren you need to be conscious every moment of how you are behaving.
Being fully present with them requires excellent listening skills, and also body and facial expressions that are honestly reflecting what your words are saying.
Children can spot someone who isn’t fully present remarkably well, and they may not feel like sharing with you.
And, you certainly don’t want that.